Dec 15 2007 02:25 pm
Posted by Kim under Life, Kids
Troubled Teen
This is a very personal post for me, but I thought I would share it with you all. If after reading this post, you get something out of it or you have been in a similar situation yourself and have any advice to give then I know my decision to share this will be the right one.
Many of you may not know that I do in fact have three children. I tend to talk about my youngest two a lot as they still live home with me so I am involved with their day to day lives. My oldest son who is 18 does not live at home and lives quite far away so I am not involved with his day to day living. Although I don’t mention him very often he is definitely on my mind a great deal and especially now.
When he was 17 he got in a little bit of trouble with the law (stealing) and instead of facing his mistakes and accepting the consequences, he has chosen to run. In all honestly I really have no clue as to where he is living and he only contacts me (not very often) through e-mails. Well just this past week I read in the newspapers that there is now a warrant issued for his arrest. This turn of events frightens me a great deal. I have tried (many times) to convince him to hire a lawyer and turn himself in, but he is still on the run.
I know when the police do finally catch up with him, things will not go in his favor and there is even a possibility that he may go to jail for a short period of time. I know this sounds extremely scary, but the longer he is on the run, the worse it will be for him in the end. Since he is not taking my advice, all I can do is sit here and hope for the best. It’s bad enough that he has to go through this, but at this time of the year it is especially difficult especially for me, my husband and his brother and sister. It’s really difficult for them as they don’t understand why he won’t come home for Christmas.
Has anyone here gone through this type of thing with a child or even a loved one of any kind? If so how in the world did you get them to finally listen to you and do the right thing?? If anyone here has some words of wisdom for me, I would sure love to here from you.
7 Responses to “Troubled Teen”
carrie on 15 Dec 2007 at 2:40 pm #
Oh wow Kim I didn’t realize that things weren’t going good with him. I can’t even imagine what you are going through and the worry. If he would only realize that turning himself in now and getting a lawyer would be a lot better then getting caught later on…how can running be better, what kind of life is it always looking over his shoulder. I know he has a great family he can turn to and hopefully he realizes this soon.
take care and let me know how it goes
Sue on 15 Dec 2007 at 4:02 pm #
You have done all you can. It’s up to him now. All you can do is keep reminding him that you and your family are there for him and that he is loved very much. He will come around, when he’s ready. I know this doesn’t help much and I wish I had a solution for you. Just keep telling him you love him! Sue
Tammy on 15 Dec 2007 at 7:09 pm #
Just love him and be there for him when he needs you. Because he’s an adult you can’t force him to do anything, it’s up to him when he’s ready. Let him know that you’ll always be his mother and that you’ll always love him. HUGS Tammy
Lisa on 15 Dec 2007 at 7:35 pm #
No advice for you. Just lots of {{{hugs}}}
Loretta on 17 Dec 2007 at 4:11 pm #
(((Kim))) Don’t worry he’ll gather himself up and come to his senses soon enough.
Frenchie on 17 Dec 2007 at 5:54 pm #
I have been through this with a loved one and we just had to ride it out. Prices had to be paid and the consequences suffered, but it worked out in the end. Everyone is happy now and lives are in order (execpting other drama, but life wouldn’t be life without it!). I know it’s hard to sit by and watch someone go through this, but sometimes, that’s what it takes. And, sometimes, it takes longer than we’d like. Good luck!
Kim on 17 Dec 2007 at 7:40 pm #
Thanks so much everyone for all your kind words and thoughts. You will never know how much I do appreciate it.